தன்வினை தன்னைச் சுடும்!

அப்பாவிகளுக்கு வரதட்சணை வழக்கு எழுதுபவர்களுக்கு ஒரு வழக்கு வந்திருக்கிறது. ரொம்ப காமெடியான புகார்! காவல்துறையில் பணிபுரியும் கணவன் வேலையிலிருந்து தாமதமாக வருவதால் வரதட்சணைக் கொடுமை வழக்குப் போட்டிருக்கும் புரட்சிப்பெண்.

Cop father-son duo booked in dowry case
The Times of India, 17 June 2010

MUMBAI: A father-son duo, employed with the Mumbai police, has been booked in a dowry case along with four other family members. The complaint was filed by Shreya aka Ratnaprabha (26), who is married to Sachin Jadhav (29), a constable.

Sachin’s father Chandrakant (54) is an assistant sub-inspector at the JJ Marg police station. Shreya, in her complaint, has stated that her in-laws were demanding a dowry of Rs 5 lakh. One of her main grouse is that her husband didn’t return home early from work. A sessions court has granted anticipatory bail to all the six accused.

Sachin and Shreya tied the knot in February 2009. They lived with Sachin’s parents, Chandrakant and Sangeeta, at Byculla. Shreya used to work in the IT sector.

In her statement to the Agripada police, Shreya stated that her husband used to return home late from work. She has claimed that Sachin gave her evasive replies every time she asked him about his late arrival. This, Shreya has alleged, forced her to stay up late. She has also said that staying up late upset her routine and made it difficult for her to juggle her job with household chores.

“Shreya has told us that the Jadhavs were putting pressure on her to get her to get money from her parents so that they could buy a new house,’’ a police officer said. “She claims she was taunted and abused verbally. Sachin’s sister Jyoti and cousins—Neelam Vidhate and Anita Bankar— have also been accused of harassment,’’ said the officer. While Vidhate lives in Junnar, Bankar resides in Lonavla.

Sachin’s counsel, MA Khan, said the constable had to rush for emergency as well as bandobast duties at odd hours. “As a result, he had to spend a lot of time away from his family,” said Khan.

The court granted anticipatory bail to all the accused on the grounds that their custody wasn’t required. “The Jadhavs are willing to return all the valuables that Shreya had brought at the time of the marriage,’’ Khan said.

Meanwhile, Shreya has filed for maintenance in a court at Sangamner in Ahmednagar, her hometown. She is currently living with her parents in Vashi.

மனைவியின் கொடுமையிலிருந்து தப்பிக்க இரண்டே வழிகள்!

திருமணமான பல அப்பாவி இந்திய ஆண்கள் தங்களது மனைவியரின் கொடுமைகளிலிருந்து தப்பிக்க வழிதெரியாமல் திண்டாடிக்கொண்டிருக்கிறார்கள். ஏனென்றால் இந்த அப்பாவிக் கணவர்களை காப்பாற்ற எந்த ஒரு சட்டமும் இந்தியாவில் கிடையாது. அவர்களது துன்பங்களைக் கேட்பவர்கள் கூட எள்ளி நகையாடுவார்கள். இதுதான் இன்றைய இந்தியக் கணவர்களின் இழிநிலை.

அதே சமயம் மனைவிக்கு கண்ணில் தூசி விழுந்து கண்ணீர் வந்துவிட்டால் கூட பல ஜொல்லுக் கிழங்களும், பெண்பித்துப்பிடித்து கண்ணில் படுகின்ற கணவர்களெல்லாம் கொடுமைக்காரர்கள் என்று எண்ணிக்கொண்டிருக்கும் கயவர்களும் அந்தப் பெண்ணின் கண்ணீருக்கு கணவனின் கொடுமைதான் காரணம் என்று கதைகட்டிவிடுவார்கள். இதுதான் இன்றைய பெண்கள் பாதுகாப்புச் சட்டங்கள் தவறாக உருவாக்கப்பட்ட விதம்.

கணவனின் கொடுமையிலிருந்து மனைவியைப் பாதுகாக்க பலவிதமான சட்டங்கள் இருக்கின்றன. ஆனால் மனைவியின் கொடுமையிலிருந்து கணவனை பாதுகாக்க எந்த ஒரு சட்டமும் கிடையாது. அதற்குப் பதிலாக ஏளனச்சிரிப்புக்கள்தான் ஏராளமாக இந்தியாவில் இருக்கிறது. அதோடு மட்டுமல்லாமல் அப்படியே கணவர்கள் அந்தக்கொடுமைக்கெதிராக குரல் கொடுக்க ஆரம்பித்தால் இந்திய அரசாங்கம் அவர்களுக்கு கருணையோடு வரதட்சணை வழக்கு, பெண்கொடுமை வழக்கு (IPC498A), குடும்ப வன்முறை (Domestic Violence) போன்ற சட்டப்பிரிவுகளில் அன்புப்பரிசு கொடுத்துக்கொண்டிருக்கிறது.

இந்த இந்தியக் குடும்ப வன்முறைச் சட்டப்பிரிவின் வரையறைப்படி “ஆண்” என்பவன் எப்போதும் வன்முறை செய்யும் குற்றவாளி என்ற நிலையில்தான் கருதப்படுவான். ஆனால் “பெண்” என்பவள் எப்போதும் ஆணின் கொடுமைக்குள்ளாகும் அப்பாவி என்ற நிலையில்தான் கருதப்படுவாள். இதுதான் இந்தியக் குடும்ப வன்முறை தடுப்புச் சட்டத்தின் சிறப்பம்சம்.

The Protection Of Women From Domestic Violence Act, 2005

Definitions.-In this Act, unless the context otherwise requires,-

(a) "aggrieved person" means any woman (Note: Woman is always a victim and Male is Never considered as a victim of domestic violence) who is, or has been, in a domestic relationship with the respondent and who alleges to have been subjected to any act of domestic violence by the respondent;

(e) "domestic incident report" means a report made in the prescribed form on receipt of a complaint of domestic violence from an aggrieved person;

(q) "respondent" means any adult male person (Note: Male is always accused respondent) who is, or has been, in a domestic relationship with the aggrieved person and against whom the aggrieved person has sought any relief under this Act:Provided that an aggrieved wife or female living in a relationship in the nature of a marriage may also file a complaint against a relative of the husband or the male partner;


அதனால் இந்தியாவில் அப்பாவிக்கணவர்களுக்கு மனைவியின் கொடுமையிலிருந்து விடுதலைபெற இப்போதைக்கு இரண்டு வழிகள்தான் இருக்கின்றன. ஒன்று கீழுள்ள வீடியோவில் சொல்லப்பட்டது போல மனைவியை மாற்றிக்கொள்ளவேண்டும். அல்லது......

இரண்டாவது வழிமுறை - மனைவி உங்கள் மீது பொய் வழக்குகள் போட்டு உங்களை சிறைக்குத் தள்ளுவதற்கு முன்பு நீங்களாகவே சிறைக்கு சென்றுவிடுவது. இந்த வழிமுறையை ஒரு அப்பாவிக்கணவர் எப்படி செயல்படுத்தியிருக்கிறார் என்று கீழுள்ள செய்தியில் பாருங்கள்.

Harassed hubby opts for jail

Apr 27 2010

April 26: A 42-year-old man deliberately got himself arrested on Sunday to escape his wife’s torture. The man, Selvam, got drunk and threw stones at an MTC bus in Vyasarpadi and waited for the police to arrest him.

He told the police that he was unable to bear the torture of his wife and preferred jail to home. On Monday, he pleaded with the police not to send him back home and made sure that he was remanded for 15 days.

Selvam, a casual labourer of Kakkanji Nagar, in Vyasarpadi, and his wife Govindammal (39), who have two children, argued often. Though initially Govindammal used to go away to her maternal home after the quarrel, she then got into the habit of beating him up. Sometimes she bashed him up for no reason at all, explained the police.

After one such ‘bashing up’ early on Sunday morning, Selvam had a few rounds before going to the Sharma Nagar bus stop and threw two huge stones at an MTC bus going into the depot. The enraged driver drove to the local police station and lodged a complaint.

After he was arrested, Selvam broke into tears during questioning. He told the police about the harassment he was going through and at one point threatened to kill himself if he was not arrested. “So, we were left with no choice,” police said.

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Source URL:
http://www.deccanchronicle.com/chennai/harassed-hubby-opts-jail-656

இளைஞர்களே,

இதுபோன்றதொரு இன்னல்மிக்க, சட்டப் பாதுகாப்பற்ற இந்தியத் திருமண வாழ்க்கை உங்களுக்குத் தேவையா?

இதற்கு ஒரே வழி வேறுநாடுகளில் திருமணம் செய்துகொண்டு உங்களது வாழ்க்கையை வளமாக்கிக்கொண்டு உங்களது பெற்றோர்களையும் பாதுகாத்துக்கொள்ளுங்கள்.

இந்தியாவில் ஆண்களுக்கு சட்டப்பாதுகாப்பு இருக்கிறதா?

A survey to straighten issues! … that's what men's organisations in the city are now looking to conduct

Times News Network

Seeking to counter certain "exaggerated" claims made by some women's organisations and in a bid to draw the attention of the government to the plight of men victimised by lop-sided laws drafted on the basis of such claims, men's organisations in the city have now embarked upon the task of conducting a massive domestic violence survey.

The results of the nationwide survey, widely believed to be the first of its kind for men in the country, will be used to find out if whether Indian men too are victims of domestic violence, the percentage of Indian men subjected to such violence and the kind of violence they are subjected to. The need for the survey has been triggered, it seems, by the controversial Domestic Violence Act - 2005, which seems to have been drafted on the assumption that only women suffer domestic violence. Says Suresh Ram, member of the All India Men's Welfare Association (AIMWA), an NGO working for the rights of men and boys, "Certain women's organisations have been stereotyping the issue of domestic violence.

They have presented a picture that conveys the impression that only women are victims of domestic violence while we have with us global surveys and over 250 scholarly studies that show that women are at least as likely as men to engage in partner aggression and that partner violence is often mutual. This fact is established if one goes through the Domestic Violence Study conducted by a well known global organisation that has done the survey in over 32 countries including India. However, the Domestic Violence Act in India offers protection to only women and not men." He further adds, "So, to set things right, we men's organisations have joined hands to ensure that a credible and transparent survey on the issue is done. Eight men's organisations are involved in this effort which is being led by the AIMWA.

We have begun negotiations with survey agencies to conduct the survey in certain cities of the country including Chennai, Delhi, Kolkata, Bangalore and Hyderabad. We intend to publish the results on Nov 19, the International Men's Day." So, what do they intend to achieve by conducting such a survey? Says Suresh, "We intend to create an awareness in society about the problems faced by men.

We wish to present to them the real situation in society. We will also seek to draw the government's attention to issues concerning men and reiterate our demand for setting up a National Commission for Men and a Men's Welfare Ministry." Men in the city are delighted with the move by the men's organisations. Welcoming such a survey, Shankar, a graphics designer, says, "I certainly welcome the move. It is high time that facts were presented on this issue." Women too seem to be for such a survey. Says Dakshayini Sampath, a media professional, "While I think that more number of women suffer domestic violence, it's also possible that men are victims. I think the law should hold good for both genders and if this survey is going to help bring about a uniform law, then I'm all for it."